Nabila

On the surface:

This movie is based on a the best-selling novel, If I Stay by Gayle Forman. Starring Chloë Grace Moretz as Mia Hall, the main character, this story is about Mia who has been in a car accident and is now having an out-body experience. This story is about her deciding whether her body will live or die when a lot of things in her life have changed. There are a lot of flashback to before the car accident happened to show how much her life has changed and mostly the flashbacks contain Adam, a boy in a band who Mia is so in love with. Maybe on the surface, it sounds like a simple love story but truthfully, this is a heartwrenching story about family, friends, love and choices that people make.


My thoughts on this movie:

I haven't read the book yet, but I heard mixed reviews about it. Probably I'll read it someday. I was interested to watch this movie because Chloe is in it and I'm a fan of her. I already saw some of her movies (Let Me In, Hugo, Carrie) and I loved her acting in those movies. This movie also stars Jamie Blackley, which is obviously attractive looking and not to mention, he has a nice voice. He sang for some of the movie soundtracks and they were amazing. It's also one of the reasons I watched this movie; it's musical-ish and there's nothing I love more than a movie with some good soundtracks.

I already watched movies about out-body experience before, and this movie isn't really the best but it's good. This movie doesn't show much about her out-body experience, it was mostly flashbacks. However, there were a lot of scenes that manage to tear my heart during her out-body experience; when people visit her and tell her things about her family, or tell them what they feel about letting her go, it broke my heart.

Plot-wise, a lot of things from this movie were expectable. It's your typical teenage romance movie; there was falling in love, fighting, making up, fighting again, typical. The thing from this movie that engaged people was to see what Mia decides to do; to stay or go. For me personally, this was an okay movie. It wasn't bad but it wasn't that it-was-so-amazing-that-I-question-my-life-after-watching-the-movie type of movie. It was sad, tragic and heartbreaking but it wasn't a movie you'll think about out of the blue someday.


Rating: ★★★☆☆


Here's the trailer if you're interested:

I was one of those people who will do almost anything to make people around me love me. Even if I really didn't want to do the things, I would still do it, because in my mind, these people might love me if I do what they want and satisfy their desires. Guess what? Even after years I tried to make some people satisfied with me, they still chose to go and leave me. It was heartbreaking, of course. The people you thought you would spend the rest of your life hanging out with suddenly just decided that you're not in their lives anymore.

My point today is, no matter how much you try to satisfy people and make them love you, some people will always see that one flaw of yours and suddenly they don't love you anymore. But we, humans, are not perfect. We're flawed. We do mistakes from time to time. Even people who try to hide their flaws still accidentally show their flaws sometimes. Being a flawed person isn't really a big deal, it's natural for us humans. We're not prophets. As long as we learn from our mistakes and try not to repeat the same mistakes, it's fine.

How to make everyone love you? You don't. There are some people who will love you no matter how flawed you are and how many mistakes you have done. If you have found those people right now, give more efforts to appreciate those people instead of trying to make other people love you. If you haven't, please know that you're not unlovable. You're just as lovable as everyone else. You will find someone who will love you for who you are. And when you found that person, cherish them.

And please note that this isn't a post that encourages you to just make mistakes unapologetically, I'm just saying that no matter how much you try to satisfy people, you can't satisfy everyone. When people criticize you, yes, it will hurt your pride and ego. But try to practice the buang yang keruh ambil yang jernih (ignore the negative and take the positive) practise when people criticize you. Not every critics are hate comments, guys. When you see something positive in someone's critic, take it to be a better person. Life is also about your inner development. And maybe some people who criticize you can help you with that.


These are just my 2 cents. If you have your own thought about this, do share in the comment section below. I would love to hear it!