Nabila

I'm curious about something. How thick is the line between selfish and self-love? How do we differentiate selfish and self-love? I think that some people nowadays (me included) do things that are seen selfish to some other people but we justify ourselves by saying that it's only self-love. I wonder, is it okay to do that? So, if you're like me who is confused about the same thing or at least a little bit curious about it, here are some articles regarding this.

1. Self Love Vs. Selfish | "When you fly, you’re told that if you’re travelling with a child, put on your own oxygen mask first. Taking care of you makes you more able to help your child. A limping person is less able to help someone who needs support. When we put the needs of others first, we’re weaker. It’s harder to support someone if you’re not supporting you? Make yourself strong first!"

2. 6 important differences between self-care and selfishness | "When someone behaves in a manner that’s self-serving, there’s an underlying malicious intent that simply isn’t present with self-care. Being selfish means there’s a desire to take from others to their detriment, whereas self-care is about replenishing your resources without depleting someone else’s."

3. 7 Ways To Know If What You Feel Is Self-Love or Selfish | "Self-love gets a bad rap because some folks often think it’s selfish. Real self-love is of service to others. But if self-love is opportunistic, greedy, inconsiderate and self-seeking, it's a false representation of real love. Don't be fooled by the inconsiderate one who puts their needs first, sacrificing everyone else."

4. The Difference Between Selfishness and Self-Love | "Think about this: Do you often feel bad saying no to a loved one? Do you say yes to things you don’t want to do? Do you worry more about what others need than you do about yourself? Do you run yourself down trying to show up for people? If so, the fear of selfishness may be blocking your expression of self-love.

5. What is the difference between selfishness and self-love? (not really an article but it's a long list of opinions from others) | "Loving yourself is when you create positive thoughts about yourself and those positive thoughts are also good for other people.